about losing friends

When you’re at school, it’s very easy to make new friends. Classmates will automatically be your friends; members of neighboring classes whom you happen to see a lot will also be your friends. Being in the university, friends will reduce from 100% classmates to only about 50%. You will know and be friends with people you have same interests with, regardless the major you’re taking and which class you are in. At work, during your quarter life crisis, you’d then realize that your school time friends would suddenly go missing in action except for a few whom you keep good contact with. Your colleagues are not necessarily your friends too. People will approach you for the things you have, or for the position you are in, when in need. After the need is fulfilled, everything will get back to normal, you can be as if you never know each other.


This is what I learn: no matter how many friends you made in the past, those who don’t share the same …. (blank can be filled with: geographical location, interest, circle of friends, jobs, etc.) would eventually go missing in action. The best thing you can do today is to seize the moment, spend the best of your time with the friends you value the most, learn from past friendship mistakes, and forget those who left you. Friendship is a mutual verb – both sides need to love each other at the same level, need each other at the same level, fight through any hardships together, and keep their promises to each other.

P.S.: If you happen to have a good friend of the opposite sex, I’d suggest you to know the boundaries well, and should you be not sure about how the other is feeling towards you, never be tempted to court your friend, as it might end up terribly.


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