I had this talk with a good friend last week about a good article I found (click here to read the article). It was written by a Chinese woman living in the US, about Chinese women who tend to get married at a young age because their family don’t want them to become “leftover women”. This woman, Joy, herself has just gotten married to this guy Dave she met after she’s been through 3 stages of life which she’s quite sure wouldn’t be found by women under 30.
The first stage would be to love yourself. At this stage, a woman knows what she wants in life and she would set her own goals regardless what others say about them. The second one is to be independent. Not only financially, but also to be able to find happiness by herself. The last one is to find ‘Mr. Right’ instead of ‘Mr. Right Now’ (he’s the one a woman would most likely meet in her 20s). When you finished the last stage, then it’s time to get married. Rushing a marriage often ends up in widowing at the age of below 30. 😦
At any kind of things, the first stage would be the most important step. It’s the same for this. Loving yourself sounds easy, but it truly is hard. Most women would willingly give things up – her lifelong dreams, career, family and friends are to name some – when it comes to relationships. It’s nobody’s fault, it happens by nature. However, when someone truly loves herself, she would think millions of time before giving things up for love. Loving yourself means being consistent with your own goals and plans, no matter what your boyfriend thinks.
We must admit that down the road we’ve all been through some mistakes, including loving others more than you love yourself. Easiest example is to give your dreams up to be together with a guy. Well, it’s basically one’s preference, but if you’re willing to finish all stages to find true love and happiness, you should follow the “rule” and love yourself.
Ladies, love yourself before you love someone else. 😉