This has been more than a year (well, minus the 3-month summer holiday I spent at home) I’m in a long distance relationship (LDR). I’m not the only one having this kind of relationship; I know some friends who are under the same condition. Some can survive, some can’t.
First of all, I’d like to say that we are so lucky to be having this LDR in the world of Internet. We can now have video call or simply chat with our loved ones in real time systems (i.e. we don’t have to wait weeks until our message reach the destination). Can you imagine having an LDR, let’s say, 30 years ago? Telephone was considered something expensive back then! The only way to communicate is mail, and it took ages for the mails to be delivered.
Well, here are three most important things in LDR *talking in an LDR guru’s tone*:
- Trust. Highlight this first thing, because without trust, there’s no way you can survive LDR. When you’re more than a thousand miles apart, trust is the most important thing, because you can’t see each other.
- Communication. Thank God for the invention of smartphones, I’m really helped. I just can’t imagine how much it would cost me if I’d only been able to call and text. Messengers are much much cheaper. 🙂
- Commitment. The commitment to stay together no matter how long the distance between both of you is, the commitment to keep the love, trust and communication for the sake of the relationship, and the commitment for both futures are also important. Both in the relationship should keep this commitment in mind.
Above the three things, there is love. Without love, you won’t start a relationship and without the three things, you won’t survive it. I’ve felt the difference between LDR and SDR (Short Distance Relationship :P), just as mom said, but let me state the differences later. Now everyone’s (who’s in an LDR) job is to keep in mind the 3 things.
Anyway, it’s not worth it keeping the LDR if either one of you gives up in sacrificing the time and heart and if you know there’s no common vision between both of you. It will only work if both of you are willing to spend quality time with your loved one and get out of one’s comfort zone in order to keep the relationship going.
Long live LDR!! *I dun want to go through this anymore, though.. thank God it’ll be over soon. 🙂